Ivy Tied Up |

Now the net is a very big place.
There are way too many to count places on the net that are geared at men and many that are geared at women.
Recently something started bugging me.. Okay SOMEONE rather.

A guy was banned at Amazingly Woman because he was well A GUY. Its a web site/community for WOMEN. Many women feel more comfortable knowing that its a website for women. Discussions take place about home life, relationships, kids, parenting, domestic crap, ect. And they feel more comfortable sharing when they feel the security of being around other women.

Its nothing more than being around a group of women and when a man walks up the entire group goes quiet until the man leaves. Its no different.

Now the anonymity that the net allows for makes some think they can come in and ask questions that MOST women in a group would not answer in real life. Or when the guy asks a group of women that he does NOT know the question they think PERVERT instantly and in most cases they are correct.

Now what is bugging me is that the other day a guy registered on AW and made a post. Of course it was one of those that you instantly think,”WTH is this guy thinking? Freaking pervert!”

He comes in asking about masturbation. To a community of women who talk about their lives and kids ect.
He is banned for it because well HE IS A GUY and the ladies there expect admin to keep people like that out.
He then emails the admin asking if he was banned. Admin replies that he was yes infact banned. He emails back over and over again calling them gay and feminazis..

Now that just makes the guy look like an idiot and childish which partly.. He probably was nothing more than a teenager playing a game.. But what is bugging me about the whole thing is this..

Why does having a place for moms and women to go and discuss things with out men around make them feminazis? Why does them wanting a place just for them make them that way? Most of the women there are mothers who lead very busy lives and sometimes need advice and friendship of others who are in their shoes with out questions of masturbation or sexual preferences from strange guys looming about.

And what is the obsession of some (NOTE I did not say ALL or men in general) men who feel the need to invade the space? Sometimes its seems like they feel all macho and powerful because they “snuck in” to a womans site and pretended to be a chick.. WOO HOO YOU GO DUDE!!!!!!!!!!! Its like a guy hiding in a closet at a slumber party..ONLY they wont be seeing anyone changing clothes or dolled up in night clothes and they wont get to hear who is crushing on who because well that went out in high school!

Aggrevated. Why is it that NOTHING is made like it was back then? When is back then you ask? Back when i was a kid (yeah i know im not that old). Back when my parents were kids.. I remember growing up my parents appliances lasted a long time! Grand parents too! Lasted long enough to be handed down to the next person in line who needed them. But now days? Now days?

Want to know what happens now days?

Now days you go to sears. You spend 350 to 400$ on a dryer. A Kenmore because tis suppose to be the best and your last one was a whirlpool that lasted 5 years before it broke. Now the kenmore was suppose to last!

Well yesterday it broke the record for crappy appliances! And you guessed it.. the warranty ran out in Feb!! The damn dryer is ONLY 15 months old!!!!! It turns but it doesnt dry! I’m sure its the heating element thing but by the time they come fix it and we have to pay the repair bill that we cant afford. That damn dryer that is only 15 months old is going to cost me 600$(cost of dryer plus cost of repairs). Its a joke! I think they did this on purpose!

I KNOW im not hte only one who has had this happen to them. I think they make them to break right after the warranty runs out. Same thing with vehicles.. They break down with in a month of the damn warranty going out! THIS IS A JOKE!!!!!!!!!

Im just livid right now. ive got a ton of laundry to wash but I have to go pay to dry them. And the damn laundry mat isnt open until MONDAY!

Things have finally slowed down some. Dad is “back to normal” and has a drs appt on Thursday.. I’m hoping it goes well. I’ve left it alone and havent spoken to him much since.. My mom told me he has a drs appt.. I dont know if she is going with him or not. I’ve walked away from the situation..

Yesterday (The 18th) My Oldest turned 7!!! I cant believe Diva turned 7! She is of course 7 going on 27!! She thinks she is grown and is the boss.. Its unreal how fast these kids grow!

I’ve been feeling MUCH MUCH better. Losing my voice off and on due to the weather but doing much better. Pregnancy is going pretty well. Today was a really good day. Ive had a lil bit of pressure lately making me uncomfortable but anyone who has been pregnant can understand what that means.. The doctor is complaining that i’m not gaining weight. Infact I lost 7lbs at my last drs appt. Now before you all freak about losing weight while pregnant.. Its not a big deal. When you are far from skinny.. I’ve never gained much weight with any of my pregnancies.. Infact I lost weight with 2 o fthem and with the 3rd I stayed the same weight through out the pregnancy until the week I had her then I lost a few pounds. 2 of my kiddos were born weighing 8lbs 4 oz.. The last.. She was premature but had nothing to do with lack fo weight gain.. She was growing non stop and even at 6 weeks early she weighed 5lbs 13oz.. She was going ot be a big baby had she been full term..

I go back to the dr on June 29th.. Then i’m going every 2 weeks.. This is where it gets fun..

Some good news.. FINALLY got new contractors to get my house fixed and finally got the estimates off to the finance co.. Hopefully in the next 3/4 weeks my house will be fixed! That will give me time to get things ready for the baby..

Bad news.. My son wants his ENTIRE room done in Camo.. Floors, walls, ect.. ICK! I said NO! He found some tile for his floor tha tis camo.. Its UGLY!!!!! Dh told him he could have it.. Im like FINE but we are NOT doing the walls camo.. Thing is..Its not just his room. He will have to share it with the baby when the baby is old enough.

OH! One question I keep forgetting to answer…

Is the girl in the pic on my design me?…

HECK NO!!!

I’ve got more than a road map of stretch marks!

ME! For having the most difficult parents in the entire world. or atleast thats how it seems anyway. Since friday i’ve been dealing with family trouble again. And none other than my parents at that.. AGAIN!

This time i’m completely worn down.. I’m not sure how I feel at this point. Im so tired and exhausted from it I cant see which way is up. My mom left my dad again. My dad calls me friday morning stating he is going to my moms job and is going to kill himself. YES you read correctly.. KILL himself. Now I head up there.. Cops are there.. They wont do anything. They tell us to talk to a judge..

Nothing is working out. he calms down. He acts fine for 3 days!! 3 days.. He acts normal. Then tonight he calls me ranting and ravnig and screaming and crying. He was yelling at me. He said he needed help. I offered to go get him and get him help. He says nO!!!!!!!!!!!! MAKE YOUR M OTHER DO IT! My mother is NOT going to go over there..

He then starts yelling stuff about my mom not telling me about their fight. That its weird. That its secretive and that its not normal for her to not talk ot me about it. I told him that she doesnt tell me about everything. That i’m their child and that they are my parents. I’ve also been sick and run down and havent had a voice for 3 days! He starts yelling that Im an adult. NOT a child.. I told him I am an adult but i am THEIR child.. Not to be brought into the middle of their arguements! He starts yelling that its all lies, all lies, all secrets, all secrets and lies and that i’m lying for her..

At this point he is making ZERO sense.. NONE.. He starts yelling and carrying on a conversation with himself at this point. only he is screaming at the top of his lungs.. YES IT IS YES IT IS.. I have no idea what he is talking about. Then he starts accusing me of this and that and saying i’m lying.. And then he starts telling me that i’m just like them. Just like them! That i can just call him when I need something and he is going to do me just like i’ve done him..

My question..HOW have I done him? I call all the time just to see how hei s doing.. I stop by his job to see if he’d like to go to lunch.. I offer him help. I’ve ALWAYS been there!!! ALWAYS..
BUT because i’m not willing to get into their relationship crap and the non stop rollercoaster that it is.. I’m now lying and bad and not involved and i dont care about him i just want something from him.. ..

How do you be there for someone who wants to hurt you? Who insults you and tries to make you feel bad and guilty when you are just trying ot help them? I’ve never turned my back on my family but now i dont know how not to. Ive got kids to raise and a family to take care of. I cant spend so much of my time and my energy dealing with something from someone who is an adult and refuses help.. And I cant force him to get help..

A friend asked today for advice on what to do. Her nephew, who her mother in law has custody of, stayed the night at her house last night nad was on her pc. On myspace of all places. She saw some things that concerned her so after he logged off and was in bed she went and snooped. Now what she found was him talking about drinking, drugs, ect. This is a boy! I wouldnt even call him a teenager! His back ground for his myspace page is weed leafs all over the page. Now some think thats cool. As a parent. I dont.

Now her delima is over what to do about her findings. She thinks the MIL who has custody fo the boy needs to know but she is concerned her nephew will be mad at her for invading his privacy and snooping. My reaction? THE KID HAS NO PRIVACY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He is a child in the care of an adult and the ONLY way the adults can care for him and keep him safe is to keep track of what he is doing online and in real life and if they arent then they arent doing their jobs. Thats just my opinion. I dont care if he’d be mad or not.. I’d damn sure talk to the MIL about it and deal with it appropriately.. ..
Me.. I’d even go further.. I’d also make sure the myspaceand computer time (that isnt monitored by an adult) go bye bye.

His safety is concern number ONE. When you are responsible for someone elses well being and their life.. Then you have every right to monitor what they are doing. Thats just my opinion. I think kids started changing their tunes in the last 10 years. Parents started caring more about their kids privacy and space thinking they deserved those defined lines there. Parents stopped being parents and started trying to be friends instead. And instead of well rounded children what they got is what society is dealing with now days. Kids who really generally dont give a crap because what are you going to do? Tell their parents??????????? Their parents let them do whatever they want to and dont ask questions.. If they did.. They’d be invading their privacy!!!!

Kids IMO dont have privacy. If i’m mean or ab ad parent because I have no problem walking into my childrens bed room and searching it.. Then so be it! I’d feel like I wasnt doing my job if I didnt know what was going on in their lives. They have no computer privacy! The internet can be a dangerous place. I plan to protect mine for as long as I can. These parents who’s kids went and shot 10 kids at school. They never knew their kids had pipe bombs or guns in their house! Thats YOUR House how do you not know??????????????? How can you be so clueless as to what is going on in your kids lives? No kids do not tell you everything. Thats why its up to you as a parent to go in and find out!

My parents always did! They kept an eye on us. Even when we didnt know it.. They kept an eye on us. My mom had no problem searching my room, my car, my belongings.. I was her responsibility! I believe I turned out okay! And my kids will to!