Ivy Tied Up |

A friend asked today for advice on what to do. Her nephew, who her mother in law has custody of, stayed the night at her house last night nad was on her pc. On myspace of all places. She saw some things that concerned her so after he logged off and was in bed she went and snooped. Now what she found was him talking about drinking, drugs, ect. This is a boy! I wouldnt even call him a teenager! His back ground for his myspace page is weed leafs all over the page. Now some think thats cool. As a parent. I dont.

Now her delima is over what to do about her findings. She thinks the MIL who has custody fo the boy needs to know but she is concerned her nephew will be mad at her for invading his privacy and snooping. My reaction? THE KID HAS NO PRIVACY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He is a child in the care of an adult and the ONLY way the adults can care for him and keep him safe is to keep track of what he is doing online and in real life and if they arent then they arent doing their jobs. Thats just my opinion. I dont care if he’d be mad or not.. I’d damn sure talk to the MIL about it and deal with it appropriately.. ..
Me.. I’d even go further.. I’d also make sure the myspaceand computer time (that isnt monitored by an adult) go bye bye.

His safety is concern number ONE. When you are responsible for someone elses well being and their life.. Then you have every right to monitor what they are doing. Thats just my opinion. I think kids started changing their tunes in the last 10 years. Parents started caring more about their kids privacy and space thinking they deserved those defined lines there. Parents stopped being parents and started trying to be friends instead. And instead of well rounded children what they got is what society is dealing with now days. Kids who really generally dont give a crap because what are you going to do? Tell their parents??????????? Their parents let them do whatever they want to and dont ask questions.. If they did.. They’d be invading their privacy!!!!

Kids IMO dont have privacy. If i’m mean or ab ad parent because I have no problem walking into my childrens bed room and searching it.. Then so be it! I’d feel like I wasnt doing my job if I didnt know what was going on in their lives. They have no computer privacy! The internet can be a dangerous place. I plan to protect mine for as long as I can. These parents who’s kids went and shot 10 kids at school. They never knew their kids had pipe bombs or guns in their house! Thats YOUR House how do you not know??????????????? How can you be so clueless as to what is going on in your kids lives? No kids do not tell you everything. Thats why its up to you as a parent to go in and find out!

My parents always did! They kept an eye on us. Even when we didnt know it.. They kept an eye on us. My mom had no problem searching my room, my car, my belongings.. I was her responsibility! I believe I turned out okay! And my kids will to!