War with 8 year olds..
Posted by ivy | Under Family Crap Saturday Dec 29, 2007The kids being out of school is literally pushing my sanity button. The older 3 are at each others throats. All I hear all day long is this one pushed this one. hit this one. did this to this one. etc.
Now those of you who have done this parenting thing longer than me.. I dont know how you did/do it. It literally pushes me to the end. The brink of no return. I love my kids but geeze..
And people smile.. Oh they smile when they show their ass in public. And I get to hear,” they are just kids”. They may be just kids but these kids are expected to behave a certain way! Kids or not!
Now my oldest.. She is really trying my nerves. People say,”oh its just a stage” and when I start thinking,”great she can live another day” THEN!!!!!!!! THEN they say,” It doesnt get any better” WTF???????? You tell me its just a stage then proceed to tell me that it doesnt get any better? So what.. right now I just want to choke her.. Eventually i’ll really want to do bodily harm??????? I’ve almost lost my voice from yelling as it is. And yes.. i’ve yelled at her.. i’m the meanest person in the world.. According to her anyhow. I swear she is 8 going on 18… What did I do to deserve this?????????????????????? If she raises her voice at me one more time i’m going to lose it.. And the rolling her eyes.. Her whole attitude like she knows every damn thing on this planet. And she is constantly telling the others what to do and when to do it.. But she can’t follow directions as it is. Then to add to it.. her grades.. Something she could care lessa bout. Oh we are headed down the wrong path. That much I know.. I dont even know how to fix it. Its not like that with the others.. not yet anyhow.
Am I a bad parent? probably not.. Am I a good parent.. Probably not.. But i’ll let her live another day she just wont like her quality of living.. She’ll be grounded until she is 30..
true, it will get worse - but by then you’ll have learned how to cope with kids who appear to be the most ungrateful, know-it-all people on the planet. try not to take it personally, they have no choice but to try and cut those apron strings. if only they could sweetly say, i’m trying out my own personality - but they don’t… they just pick at yours.
hope you have a better day today and that the meds have helped to level you out again.
Ivy, it doesn’t get better when they are mouthy at eight! It’s because she is bright. If that is any consolation. But you have to nip it in the bud and stay on top of her like you are doing.
Insist on respect. Insist that she not “run the show”. I had one like her and she is a wonderful person now …the attorney turned teacher that I visited for Chrismas. But she was a hellion at eight. I had to keep a tight rein on her. Respect is the key. You’re a great parent…don’t ever forget that. Believe it.
I have confidence in you. Michele
I hate to say it,but I am going thru the same thing with my 12 year old. He throws the worst fits over the littlest reasons and I am at my wits end.
If I find the secret to dealing with them, I will let you know.
Till then, chin up!