Ivy Tied Up |

Its spring break week in our house. And we’ve had a ball.. Monday Wyatt felt like crap. Tuesday sugar was sick. She had 101.5 fever turned around said,”Momma” and proceeded to throw up everywhere. Wed Wyatt was running 101 fever and had/s goopy yellow stuff coming out of his eyes and his nose.. So today I’m taking Wyatt and Bug to the dr. Bug because his asthma is out of control and I need more controller meds for him and a mask for the nebulizer. Sugar however is feeling better and running around like mad.

 I’m not the worlds best mom or wife. I can be rather lazy and lethargic at times. Other times I can be mean, controlling, obsessive, demanding, irritable, the list goes on. Other times I’m happy and down to earth or overly attentive and happy. You get my point. I can be many different things and rarely the same thing for too long. One thing that has always stood no matter which mood I’m in is that the kids have a list of chores that they MUST do. I refuse to clean up their messes. To some this makes me a bad parent. Some people look at me and say,”They are your kids! You are supposed to take care of them” My taking care of my kids has little to do with me cleaning up their messes. I do NOT clean up their messes. Not when they are old enough to clean them up themselves! Everyday we have a routine. I clean the house up . Do the general cleaning but I leave their messes for them. In the afternoon when they get home from school they clean up the mess they made that morning. (ex. their clothes all over the place from getting ready for school) They work together to clean up the living room while I get dinner started. Then we all work on home work and get that done. They help me do the dishes and the laundry and take out the garbage. Taking care of a house of 6 is a big job. I refuse to do it alone. These kids are old enough to help with the dishes and laundry and do age appropriate cleaning around the house. They are also responsible for their rooms. After all the cleaning up THEIR mess only takes about 15 minutes of their day IF they get busy and do it. The laundry. I fold it they put it up. Easy enough.

Sometimes they get on the kicks where they refuse to do anything. Thats fine. I equally refuse to do anything and we end up with nothing getting done but they learn they don’t go outside, play, watch tv if nothing is getting done. I refuse to carry the entire weight of this household by myself. Even more when its NOT MY MESS! I do not throw trash on the floor. I do not throw my clothes all over the living room and I do not have my toys in the hall way waiting to be stepped on. But in all honesty. My husband is worse than the kids are! He literally does jack crap around here and makes the largest mess.

I’m feeling a bit better today. Better than I was last week. More in control than I was last week. It could have to do with being able to sleep in with spring break here. Not having to play taxi for the kids every morning. More to come later.